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Parents: Stop Nagging and Start Motivating

Today's article is geared more towards parents again... Let’s be honest—your child probably has never jumped off the couch shouting, “Wow, thanks for reminding me to do my homework for the fifth time!” While you want to keep your child on track, constant reminders can wear down both your patience and their enthusiasm. The good news? You can help your child stay motivated in school without turning into the household nag. Here’s how:

1. Focus on Effort, Not Just Grades

Instead of only celebrating A’s, praise the work that goes into getting them. Recognizing effort—whether it’s finishing a tough assignment or studying without being asked—teaches your child that hard work matters more than perfection.

Try this: Swap “Why didn’t you get an A?” with “I’m proud of how hard you worked on that project!”

2. Let Them Set Small Goals

Big goals like “Get straight A’s” can feel overwhelming. Help your child break schoolwork into bite-sized goals—like finishing a chapter today or improving their next quiz score. Small wins keep motivation high.

Try this: Ask, “What’s one thing you’d like to accomplish this week?” and help them map out a plan to get there.

3. Give Them Some Control

Kids are more likely to stay motivated when they feel in charge of their own success. Allow your child to make choices—like picking their study time or deciding which subject to tackle first.

Try this: Instead of “Do your homework now,” ask, “Would you rather study before or after dinner?”

4. Connect School to Real Life

If your child thinks school is pointless, motivation takes a nosedive. Show how their schoolwork connects to real-world interests—like how math helps with managing money or how writing improves communication (hello, future job applications!).

Try this: If they love video games, point out how strategy and problem-solving skills apply to both school and play.

5. Celebrate Progress (Even the Small Stuff)

Everyone loves a little reward. Celebrate progress and effort—whether it’s a fun treat, extra screen time, or a simple high-five. Small rewards make the hard work feel worthwhile.

Try this: “You finished your homework without being reminded—how about a movie night this weekend?”

By focusing on encouragement instead of constant reminders, you’ll help your child stay motivated while keeping the peace at home. And who knows? They might even start their homework without you asking (miracles do happen).

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